Monday, January 18, 2010

Dishclothes, Puzzles, and a Book

What a difference a week makes. One week ago, I made a post at work before I left for the local hospital where my MIL had been admitted for dehydration. She had been sick for a week or so and after going to the doctor, they wanted to admit her, give her some fluids and send her home. She had been admitted the Friday previous and by Wednesday was doing no better. Wednesday evening she was worse and we made the decision to have her moved to a hospital in Pittsburgh. Very early Thursday morning, she was transferred to Allegheny General Hospital and that is where my husband and I have lived since then, holing up for the nights on waiting room chairs and love seats, showering in the handicapped shower early in the AM, and living on hospital cafeteria food. Our daughters have come to visit and brought clean clothes and more yarn. Knitting makes people pause and ask what you are making and allows you to hear, "My mom always made those" Grandma made those all the time," "I would love to learn to do that" which then leads to conversations of why they are there? who is sick? and so on. The other ice breaker I found was a jigsaw puzzle. I kept one going on the table and met so many people and heard stories of how they did this when they were a kid and they would stop and put in a few pieces. I even spent a nice evening listening to the stories of an Iraqi war veteran that was there having surgery from injuries.
My mother in law? Many, many problems, kidneys, liver, infections and other problems, doctors, nurses, residents and medical students until our heads are swimming with information. Tomorrow they will start her on dialysis. It is not something that she ever wanted to happen, but being in the waiting room and in the lounge and hearing all the stories around me for all those days, dialysis does not seem so bad comparatively, but then she has not been hearing the stories as I have. I am also reading have a little faith by Mitch Albom. It is really hitting home and a perfect read for the situation that we are in right now. Relying on God and knowing that he is in charge and allowing him to be in charge at this point is a huge comfort.

Tonight I am home. My husband is still at the hospital and I feel guilty for being at home while he is still there. She has been moved to a private room, so he will be able to stay in the room with her tonight. I wish that it were not necessary but the doctors come in so early and it is sad but you almost have to be there to be an advocate for the patient. She is not able to process what they are telling her right now due to her health and we feel that someone needs to be there to make sure that everyone is on the same page, that the three doctors know what each other are doing and that it is accurately relayed to the nurses and dietitians.

If this all sounds disjointed, it probably is, I am tired.

This is a quote within the book I am reading, how true it is.

I walked a mile with Pleasure;
She chatted all the way;
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say.

I walked a mile with Sorrow,
And ne'er a word said she;
But, oh! The things I learned from her,
When Sorrow walked with me.



Chatty Kathy~Palmetto Prims said...

I have been wanting that book, now I must buy it. Love that quote. So sorry your MIL is having all those problems. I will say a special prayer for her and you and your husband. I know how it is to live at hospitals just to try and catch a doctor and how frustrating when you do talk to one and they seem to be in a hurry. Keep the faith and take care of yourself. Leave it all in God's hands. Big hugs my friend!!!

lisa said...

Oh my, you guys will be in my prayers...God is in control..I will be asking some friends of mine who are prayer warriors to pray for your mother in law...Lisa

Laurie said...

Your MIL is in my prayers Cathy, and you and your husband also. God Bless You.

Tomatoe Creek Prims said...

I'm so sorry you are both going thur this but I'm glad one of you is always with comforting for her.
The hospital is about 35 miles SW from me BTW.

Get some rest as you know it's very tiring to wait like that.


Ann said...

Cathy, I don't have any encouraging words for you other than to tell you that you and your family will be in thoughts and prayers. It is hard as our parents get older, but your love and support is what she needs. ~Ann

ohiofarmgirl said...

Praying! Dianntha

Carol K said...

Cathy, I guessed something was going on since I hadn't heard or seen anything from you for so long.
Your quote is so appropriate, I am thinking of you all. Let me know if there is anything we can do.

What a nice idea for the puzzle....and I know the knitting helps, too, allowing your mind to briefly drift from everything right in front of you. Keep in touch.

Balisha said...

It seems that we women need to keep our hands busy during times like this. I'm hoping that things will go well for all of you. She's lucky to have a loving family. I'm praying for all of you.

Meggie said...

Inspirational passage, Cathy, very true! Prayers are coming your way for your MIL. I hope she's getting good care at AGH. I worked there in Pediatrics a long time ago.

Lois said...

Hi Cathy.
I was sorry to read of your MIL health issues.
I will certainly give a special mention in my prayers for you and your family. It certainly is hard when this kind of thing happens.
Your faith will help you through it for sure.
Blessings to you and yours.

Caths Pennies Designs said...

Oh Cathy, I've been behind on my reading and just discovered your post. I hope your MIL is on the mend and improving now. I know exactly what that is like, living in the hospital and the exhaustion, worry and stress that goes along with that. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and especially your mother in law.

Homemakers Tales said...

A gal after my own heart my needles work overtime at times like you are going through its called.. therapy.. i am an intecesser so your on my mind Love
Kieren xx

Jenny said...

I'm sorry to hear of all the health issues in your family. Make sure to take care of you, too, in the midst of all this worry. Sending prayers your way.